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Apr. 8th, 2010

Writer's Block: Gone Too Far

What is the scariest incident with drugs or alcohol you’ve witnessed or personally experienced? How did it change you?

that night joe dahkks died the first time
if you knew my story word for word, had all of my history
would you go along with someone like me?

Apr. 28th, 2009

Why is it so hard to look at something from another person's point of view for fifteen seconds? Because that's all it would take. I have my hardest exam tomorrow and I can't study because he won't call me back which he KNOWS drives me CRAZY because I've told him FIVE MILLION TIMES. I don't get itttttttttt.

i don't usually vent on lj.

Mar. 30th, 2009

A particularly unenlightened definition of lesbianism is “women who don’t like men.” Coincidentally, the same person might define feminists the same way. Is this just an illusory coincidence? What is the relationship between lesbianism and feminism? Where do these two groups overlap? How do they see each other? How do others see them? While this cross section of society might seem very specific, it actually spans many perspectives and a wide spectrum of opinionated members.

The Lesbian Feminism of the 70’s
Feminism in the 70’s was very political and very far-reaching. Naturally, it extended to sexuality. From these women’s perspective, if you were a feminist, it was your responsibility to be a lesbian. The reasons were many. First and foremost, men were the enemy. Relationships were a huge area of male domination. Essentially, women were boycotting men.
“Lesbianism is the key to liberation and only women who cut their ties to male privilege can be trusted to remain serious in the struggle against male dominance…It is because the very essence, definition, and nature of heterosexuality is men first.” (Bunch)
Secondly, women’s competing for male attention was believed to be too divisive to be supported. It divided women, when solidarity was key. In this situation, other women were the enemy, and man was the goal. This offended the feminists deeply, and it is no surprise that they would not tolerate being pitted against each other, as they saw it, for the man’s pleasure and benefit.
Third was the idea that lesbianism is a commitment of all your energies—sexual, emotional, etc—to women only. Energy spent on men was counterproductive, while energy contained within womankind bolstered their community. Only lesbians fully support women. As you can see, your sexuality was a political statement. Once again, this association of sexuality with politics is unique because of the fact that feminism seeks to go to the core of our lives. There is hardly a political position that is more encompassing of everyday life.

The Downturn of Lesbian Feminism
Feminists are one of the most notoriously fractioned groups in the US. It is not surprising to me that this idealistic collectivization of the many shades of lesbianism—and all things related—imploded. Primary lesbians (Stein)—those who would be lesbian regardless of politics—began to challenge Lesbian Feminist ideals. Many of them rejected the identity that was being applied in broad strokes to their movement. The anti-porn movement, one of the more famous battles within feminism, paired with lesbianism as a political choice, made some feel as if sexual desire was not a factor in feminist politics. Also, some didn’t appreciate the way feminism was made to be one’s primary identity. The individuals were butting heads within a movement that was supposed to support individualism. (Stein) As Lesbian Feminism disintegrated, the movement began to morph in to more of an exploratory, less dictative questioning of gender and sexuality. (Fudge) There is now less political agenda, and less desire to collectivize. The individualistic ideal won out over a homogenous political group. Though lesbians and feminists often work together, it is through separate organizations and movements. It is clear that the Lesbian Feminist movement as it was, is no more.

How lesbians and feminists view each other
In my investigations in to the modern opinion, I have noticed a very distinct trend in the population. It seems that progressive movements, and people within or who come in contact with these movements, have a very anti-assumption attitude. Trying to illicit an opinion about correlations was extremely difficult. All the lesbians love feminists even if they don’t agree with their lifestyles and vice versa. I think this is a result of two social factors. One is the political correctness movement. In everyday civil society, I think one is far more likely to be attacked for racist or sexist ideas than for actually being black or a woman. (This is excluding violent crimes) Another factor, perhaps a result of the former, is the exponential increase of different kinds of queer and different kinds of feminism. Political correctness spawned a movement in finding the correct, non-offensive term for every type of person. This created social niches, and all the species of non-normal radiated to fill them all. It is becoming more normal to know people that are gay black republican men, etc., and no one knows this better than lesbians and feminists. Lesbians have no problem with women being lesbian for political reasons, and feminists have no problem with lesbians not agreeing with any feminist ideas. The mantra seems to be, “That’s your prerogative.”

How the world sees the relationship between the two
The world is a very different place than it was thirty years ago. In the 70’s, when feminism was more militant than today, and also relatively new, misconceptions abounded. Because feminism was a new concept for many, it was easily misunderstood. As we all know, humans resist change. So when a political group that they don’t understand is actively trying to upend everyone’s views on something as big as 50 percent of the population, it is understandable that there would be resistance—sometimes colored with anger. The feminist movement in popular culture progressed very quickly, moving from hippies who believed in women’s rights, because they believed in everyone’s rights; to radical women who called for the destruction of everything man made and saw being heterosexual as consorting with the enemy. These are fighting words. The average non-feminist citizen, therefore, was under attack, and responded accordingly. The relationship between these trailblazing movements was much closer in these conditions. Lesbians and feminists were both mavericks, and felt the need to stick together for defense. As time went on, the pendulum swung, and feminists on the inside criticized radicalism, and the feminist movement fractured severely. It is not them together against the world anymore. Meanwhile, the world has had time to get used to the idea of feminism, and has forgotten about the feminism of the past. In my research and interviews, I actually found that the public is too unassuming. They don’t believe—or won’t admit that they believe—that there is a relationship between lesbianism and feminism. That you are just as likely to be lesbian and feminist as lesbian and an athlete. “Some lesbians are very feminist, just like some gay men are very masculine—it happens,” (Scott); and “Is this a serious thing?” were two representative quotes from the public. However, the reality is that most lesbians at least have feminist ideals. It is a fact that the two are correlated. Incorrect as they may be, it is a pleasant surprise to see that the general public’s opinion is as benign as it is.

These considerations are not meant to be abstract. It relates to everyone. You have an opinion about feminism, maybe even a separate one about feminist ideals. You know lesbians; maybe you are a lesbian. Maybe your mom was a bra-burning feminist back in the day. How do these factors of your life interact? Your experience is completely unique, and therefore you have a unique perspective. Utilize it. Educate yourself on others’ experiences, and tell them about yours. Talk about the ideas, and talk about where you fall on the spectrum. My point is that feminists, lesbians, their relationships with each other, and with the world—are anything but black and white. What shade of grey are you?
this person used their parents super 8 footage and put it to the Zombies. I'm dying from vintage cuteness.

Feb. 27th, 2009

yesterday, i went to a cool museum with kirsten, had sushi, lost my FSU card, went home and had actual free time to read, went to yoga, had tea with anthro bike riding friends, had vegan food.

today i went and volunteered with elementary school kids at a mock dig.

tonight i'm going to a hip-hip magazine launch party.

Tomorrow judson is playing at a live painting thing, then Fresh Fest.

life just got a shot of awesome suddenly.

Feb. 10th, 2009

i wish overheard_tally  got more love it could be the best

Feb. 9th, 2009

i wish i could eat clothes.